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Where we are: We’re in London for two more weeks.
London Isn’t Chill, and Neither Am I
This time last year, we were cozily ensconced in an apartment in the Faroe Islands. The weather was cool and rainy and sometimes epically windy. I joined the town gym; we bought groceries and ate in the apartment and watched the Tour de France on television and enjoyed an idyllic rural month in the middle of nowhere.
As a matter of fact, we loved it so much we decided to do something similar this year—hunker down in a cool climate outside of Schengen for the month of July. It would get us out of European heat, European tourism, and preserve our precious Schengen time.
So while we were hanging out in Faroe, we booked an apartment in London for 28 nights. We don’t get to London very often, and it’s one of my favorite cities, so I spent the intervening year looking forward to returning.
Now, twelve months later, it’s July again, and here we are in London.
It should be obvious, but sometimes I am dense: London is NOT the Faroe Islands, in any way, shape, or form.
As a matter of fact, I would posit that the two places have exactly two (and only two) things in common—high prices and limited housing. But we’re organized, right? We booked an apartment a full year ahead, to be sure we’d get a place in the neighborhood we wanted, with a big bed and air-conditioning. I run hot at night, and I wanted a bit of insurance against the remote risk of an errant heat wave.
As of today, we’ve been here two weeks, and London has apparently forgotten that it’s supposed to be damp and chilly and gray. We’re currently in the THIRD round of high heat since we arrived. It’s not surface-of-the-sun hot like Las Vegas in July, but it’s hot enough that this winter-built city is slowly steaming in its own juices.
People walk around sunburned, sweating through their clothes, congregating in little patches of shade. Some of the busses seem to have automatic heat that runs all the time, even when it’s 90 degrees outside. People whip out little personal electric fans on the Tube.
And our air-conditioned apartment? The air-conditioner doesn’t work. After five days of sweating and messaging and eventually meeting the repair person, we finally heard from our host that it’s going to have to be replaced. She has no idea when that will happen.
We stuck it out for ten days, decamping to a nearby hotel (at the host’s suggestion) during the second round of heat. But as our weather apps and every news source in the United Kingdom began to warn that yet another wave of 90 degree temps was approaching, we threw in our sweat-soaked towels, and canceled the rest of our booking.
We’re now settled (I use that word loosely) in at a Hyatt Place in a different part of town—the room is on the small side, without as much natural light as I like, but the air-conditioning works like a charm.
I’m having to completely reset my expectations for our quiet, settled month in London. We’ve packed our bags and moved twice. I’m not shopping at the market, making beautiful salads for lunch, or having long, lazy breakfasts in our apartment. I’ve given up my fun neighborhood gym, and I’m using the hotel gym in the basement. It feels weird to sit in this dim little room all afternoon watching cycling on the television. At least in the apartment, with the windows open to a busy street, I felt connected to the city. In this insulated, quiet room, I could be anywhere.
(Note: because I am watching the Tour de France, in spite of, or perhaps because of, my discombobulation, I can tell you that the most British part of our last two weeks is the commercials. Our favorite is the one for the cremation service: pre-plan your own funeral before the end of August, and they’ll throw in free afternoon tea, worth up to £50!)
Instead of feeling connected now, I feel disoriented and unsettled. I’m having difficulty planning a day, making decisions, settling down to write. Limbo is not where I expected to spend the month of July, so I’m having to work a bit harder than usual to align my expectations with reality.
It’s weird, because I’m accustomed to moving—the mere fact of packing and unpacking and sleeping in a different room shouldn’t bother me so much. I think the real problem is the conflict between expectation and reality. So often I go into a situation with no expectation, because it’s a place I’ve never been, or a place I don’t feel especially connected to. But over a lifetime of visiting and loving London, I’ve built up a mental image of what my time here should be, and this time it’s not that. I’m having to be even more flexible than I usually am—disgruntlement is a choice, and I would prefer to shift my expectations and find joy, rather than end our time here with a sour taste in my mouth.
These new expectations are requiring some effort, a lot of self-talk, a lot of reminders of gratitude. Also, more treats than I need. Sometimes you just need to hunker down in the air-con and have a cookie.
Take care,
Lisa
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